Asking for help is one of the best things you can do—even if it is 'for a friend.'
Sometimes, reaching out on someone else’s behalf can be an easier way to start a conversation about what you’re going through. It opens up a space to share our own emotions that might otherwise feel too hard to express.
But remember, it’s okay to ask for support for yourself too, especially during the holidays.
But what if I'm actually asking for a friend?
When a friend turns to you for support, you might not always know what to say—and that’s okay. Just being there and listening can make a real difference. The holidays can change routines and support systems, but simply opening up can create space where both of you feel supported.
If you’re unsure how to help, MOST has resources to guide you and your friends through the festive season. MOST helps young people move from feeling stuck to feeling okay, and the peer network offers support even over the holidays.
Sharing these tools can be a great way to support each other through the festive season.
What if I need support too?
When someone close is facing tough times, we might realise that we need support too because we are experiencing the similar things.
Emotions like anger, shame, or sadness might come up—and that’s okay. You might feel empathy or maybe proud of your friend for reaching out to you. You may also remember times when you felt alone and think of who was or was not there for you.
Feelings don’t have to be overwhelming, it’s a sign of how much you care. Recognising complex emotions about the past, the future, and what your community is going through is part of the journey.
When you’re supporting someone else, remember to take a moment to check in with yourself. If you’re struggling too, it’s okay to acknowledge that and seek the support you need.
Remember what friends are for
Sharing your experiences alongside a friend can create a space where both of you feel understood and cared for. It’s a reminder that you don’t have to go through tough moments alone. It’s a good thing to ask for help, no matter the reason or the season.
MOST can be a place where you can share these feelings, ask for a friend and get real support from real people, even if you’re away from care during the holidays.
Need extra support over the festive season? Join MOST
MOST is designed to give young people support at every stage of their mental health journey.
It can help when you’re going through a tough time at school, work or university. Or support you alongside your face-to-face mental health care.
If you’re aged 15-25 and live in Victoria, the Australian Capital Territory or Queensland, you can sign yourself up to MOST.
If you live in New South Wales, Western Australia or are aged 12-14 in Victoria, the Australian Capital Territory or Queensland, you’ll need a referral from a participating youth mental health service to join MOST.
